If you are here reading this, you are probably looking for some peace of mind over the looming topic of New Year’s resolutions. You barely managed to fulfil a quarter of your last list — how is next year going to be any different? Deep down, perhaps you know with a fair amount of certainty that both life and your own traitorous brain are going to stop you from meeting most of these impossible goals. You just know that those unflattering and permanent dark eye circles will be your best friend as you ruminate over your intimidating list on a nightly basis. Skip the hassle, live your best life, and forgo these lists altogether. Let me tell you why you should change your mind.
You Will Fail More Often Than Not
Let’s not beat about the bush. Most people are likely to fail to meet their New Year’s resolutions by the end of January. This should not come as a surprise, considering how unrealistic most of them are. For instance, you would probably have heard of people aiming to go to the gym more often. What most of them fail to fully recognise is the fact that they are often starting from ground zero. They come to the gym and step on the treadmill or bicycle, unprepared to feel as sore as they are almost always going to feel the next day. On top of that, they find that they eventually have even less time to go to the gym, thanks to their demanding jobs.
Why bother when these lists are just going to end up the same way every single year? Break the cycle now and stop coming up with these cursed New Year’s resolutions.
The Unnecessary Middle Man
At the heart of these things, New Year resolutions are simply fancier, often longer, to-do lists. Why write such a long list of things that you want to do down when you could just start one of them right off the bat? Lists can be another way to procrastinate on goals that you want to achieve. In your head, keeping them all nicely compiled in one place is going to help you consolidate everything you want to do. It sounds logical.
However, consider your past track record. Has creating these lists helped you live your life to the fullest more so than before you started them? Or are you increasingly troubled by how unproductive you are over time, instead? If you find yourself saying no and yes, respectively, then that piece of paper meant for your New Year resolutions can be put to much better use. Pen in far more concrete plans that you can accomplish directly into your schedule.
You Will Probably Misplace It Anyway
It could happen. Most of us deal with so much far more important paperwork on a daily basis. That one list of New Year’s resolutions is probably going to end up shoved into the back of your mind or desk to make way for higher-priority documents, especially whenever you are in a rush. Before you know it, you are already nearing the end of another year when you start spring cleaning your desk or computer and discover the list by accident.
You could, of course, be an exception if your New Year’s resolutions are always in plain sight or you are just that well-organised. As admirable as that is, it still begs the question: do you actually meet these goals or do you eventually begin to pretend that the list is not there?
One Less Source Of Stress
When you fail to stick to your list, you may either feel inadequate, begin beating yourself up for how unproductive you have been, or even both. Say hello to more sleepless nights and lifelong friends that are your ever so permanent dark eye circles.
However, you will finally be rid of one source of stress once you come to terms with just how counterproductive and pointless these lists often are. If these resolutions get so deep under your skin that they keep you up all night, then they are far more trouble than they are worth.
Focus on smaller, short-term goals that you are less likely to feel overwhelmed by and work slowly from there. A whole laundry list of goals or changes that you wish to make to your life can be intimidating to even the best of us. Not all of us are high-powered superachievers. It is okay to be perfectly human.
You Are Better Than You Think You Are
New Year’s resolutions often come from a good place. Creating them is an attempt to exercise self-reflection by considering ways in which you could improve yourself. However, more often than not, these lists can also make you forget that you are better than you think you are.
Remember to give yourself more credit and worry a tad less about all your perceived shortcomings. Falling into the same old cycle by writing down a list of resolutions is only going to make you focus so much on these shortcomings that you end up imprisoned by your own mind. There is no need to structure your life around one list. Start making these changes today yourself and grant yourself little rewards along the way.